Have you ever wondered if you were a "good" grandparent? By that I mean a grandparent that nurtures the grandchildren and supports the parents. We often see that little saying, "If momma says "NO" ask Grandma." While it sounds cute, that is not the way a grandparent should operate. Now, I am talking about normal circumstances... not cases where the parents are not fit to parent their children. When children come to visit Grandma and Grandpa, the parents should have the confidence that the grandparents are going the support their values and methods of childraising. The grandparents should be willing to abide by the same standards and principles that the parents are trying to instill in the children. What do I mean....? Here are a few examples.
If the parents don't want the children to have candy then that should be the rule at Grandma's.
If mom and dad don't want the children to watch TV, there should be no TV at Grandma's.
If mom and dad want their kids to eat all their food on their plates then Grandma had better make sure those plates are clean!
If bedtime is at 8 o'clock, then the pjs go on at 7:30 and the teeth are brushed and prayers said by 8:00.
You get the idea?? This is so important if there is going to be a healthy and happy relationship between parents and grandparents. It really isn't that hard either!